It doesn't happen every day

When the End is Near

You absolutely know when something is about to end and I'm not talking necessarily about relationships. It can be a friendship, a situation you felt comfortable with (or not), a feeling, hey, even a party :-)
So my question here to you is should one try to do something to stop it from happening?(now I'm strictly referring to relationships, be it between you and a loved one or between you and a very dear friend). Should one desperately cling to the hope that things can be worked out? Does one still call his/her friend, in the desperate illusion that one call will recreate the sense of intimacy and happiness that those 2 friends once shared? Or should one just give up and "move on"? I mean, one can find other friends, right? One just needs to know how to open up again to another person and there you have it: a new best friend, a new human being whose shoulder one can borrow and cry on. Is letting go and giving up a sign that you're growing up and you are now able to manage a situation with dignity and accept the hard facts?
Ending something is never fun. The end of a friendship is both the beginning of a mourning period and of a healing process. If you're on the receiving end, meaning if you were the person that was "dumped", you feel crappy and rejected at best and wonder what went wrong and whether it was your fault. If instead you're the one that ends it, you keep asking yourself, whether you did the right thing or maybe the most horrible mistake in your entire life.
I guess most of the time the end comes from growing apart, you stop calling or you're waiting to see how long it takes for your friend to call and while waiting you start doing other things, realize there are other people you can have fun with on the planet and if your friend doesn't care about you, why should you?
So what should one do? I'm not sure I have the answer, but I'm really inclining to say the word "closure"...I just don't want to say it out loud

posted by soranelle @ 6:46 PM